My Struggle with Anger/Bitterness

26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.

Ephesians 4:26-27

I have a confession to make.

I’m human. I make mistakes. I allow things to irritate the mess out of me to the point of anger and bitterness.

The Bible makes it clear that there is a righteous anger but there is also a sinful anger. And lately that’s been the anger that’s been trying to control me.

30 And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.

Ephesians 4:30

Lately God has been convicting me of my attitude towards a certain person, who, by the way, is not a believer. This makes the relationship between the two of us even worse because of my poor attitude towards them.

I feel guilty when I start becoming bitter towards this person because I know that’s not how I should be living. I’m not portraying Christ with this attitude.

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Ephesians 4:31-32

Who am I that I should be acting this way? In the book of James, he tell us:

19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. 21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

James 1:19-21

Instead of reacting to this person’s attitude towards me, I should be living in such a way for Christ that this person sees the difference God has made in my life. I need to be WITNESSING to the person, for crying out loud. Instead I’m harboring ill will towards this person.

If I’m proclaiming Jesus is Lord, maybe I should think about how to represent Jesus well, in my work, in my family, with my friends and how I live my life.

Kira Murillo