In Person or On Paper?

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Okay so I am not the best when it comes to confrontation. I tend to avoid it like the plague. I just hate it. I get all flustered and red faced, my anger rears it ugly side. And I don’t know about you but my anger seems to be hardwired to my tear ducts. Seriously! The minute I get super frustrated or angry, here come the waterworks!! Dude, seriously…stop. So if you ever see me bawling my eyes out….it’s probably because I’m angry not sad. LOL

SOOO…with that said I have a question for you all. To avoid confrontation and to hopefully diffuse a situation before it gets worse, would you rather write them a letter?

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I am the type of person who expresses my feelings much better through the written word. When I’m forced to have a super serious talk in person, I clam up, I get flustered and turn all red in the face. (Plus it doesn’t help that in the past couple of years I’ve developed this…..I have no idea what to call it…..a tic when speaking? When I am talking, sometimes it’s as if my brain and my mouth have decided to stop communicating and I get flustered and my voice “catches?” on a certain word…. Y’ALL I CANNOT EXPLAIN IT! I don’t understand how to describe it but it’s just annoying as heck. )

So let me ask you all….how do you deal with confrontation? Especially if you, like me, are an introvert and can’t stand confrontation?

Also, could you share some bible verses or quotes that help a person get through confrontational times?

On Paper?

In Person?

3 thoughts on “In Person or On Paper?

  1. T. R. Noble August 21, 2020 / 1:24 am

    James 1 shares we are to be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to wrath. I like sorting my thoughts on paper and breaking things down. This helps even before responding. But also remembering this person was made in the image of God and we need to care about this person. I’m very much working on slowing down and it’s very edifying.

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    • Leigh August 21, 2020 / 3:02 pm

      It’s funny you should post this. I’m reading this article about dealing with difficult people and this quote stood out:

      “It starts with confrontation (uncomfortable), escalates to involving others (especially uncomfortable) and culminates in involving the whole church. (almost unbearable.)”

      Also, it says “casual withdrawal from a difficult relationship without first working for peace is simply not an option for believers.”

      WOW! Toes definitely stepped on here.

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      • T. R. Noble August 21, 2020 / 4:50 pm

        Oh, wow! That quote sticks to me, too! Thanks for sharing!

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